========= The Gender Tag Prompts =========
 1. How do you self-identify your gender, and what does that definition mean to you?
I'm a nonbinary woman. To me this means that most of the time, my gender feels fairly neutral as I understand it, but it's kind of fluid. I use a mix of male, female, and neutral terminology for myself - boy (I'm like 90% sure that I'm not at all male, just like being called one, and honestly gender is so complicated in general for me especially as a neurodivergent, sapphic, GNC nonbinary woman that it's fucking impossible to tell), girl, woman, son, daughter, sir, miss, datemate, girlfriend - and I want strangers to not be able to tell if I'm a boy or girl.

But I don't relate to what I understand as "manhood" and don't feel that I fit in with men as a social class. When I'm in a group of men, there's just this instinctive sense that I'm not that.

And with women? When my gender's not neutral, it's definitely leaning toward female - and it's almost always at least vaguely aligned with it, though that alignment is...louder...when someone is being misogynistic. I trust women easily, I bond with them easily, I feel close to them. When they talk about their experiences, it resonates with me. When I'm around sapphic women specifically, it's like they're my sisters...only not in an actual "they're my sisters" way because ew, but like how when religious women are talking about other women in their faith and they're like "these are my sisters in *fill in deity here*" except with sexuality instead of religion, if that makes sense?

I look at masculine women and think "they're like me...or close, at least" but I don't feel the same way about feminine men. I picture myself with a wife or girlfriend and think of that relationship as sapphic, I picture our potential kids and think that they're going to have two moms. I look at a beautiful girl and think "I'm so gay." I feel a connection to women's struggles, to feminism, to women's history, to the social construct of womanhood in general. That's what being a woman means to me.

 2. What pronouns honor you?

 I use she/her for safety reasons around people I'm not out to (which is most people). Otherwise though I'll tolerate she/her pronouns, though it does cause me social dysphoria if someone is only using them out of transphobia, prioritization of their comfort or religious beliefs over my needs and mental health, or refusal to see me as anything other than female (yes, I can tell when you're doing this). But I generally prefer they/them/their and sometimes also use he/him/his.
 3. Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear.
I consider my gender expression closer to masculine than feminine, and since it's summer, I kind of have to wear shorts and t-shirts - which makes it really hard to be read as sapphic or nonbinary, because a lot of visual cues that someone is LGBT, a lot of the survival techniques that we use to detect and connect with our people, have to do with being gender nonconforming...and when it's hot out, even most cishet women, no matter how feminine they are, will not bother with makeup or irritating, sweat-aggravating fabrics, like silk, satin, lace, tulle, or nylon, that cling and cause itching when you're already pissy. It's easy to present androgynous and look like a cis woman in summer.
And that leaves me between a rock and a hard place - if I'm perceived as feminine, I'm invisible to straight cis people, and a bit safer from harassment...but I'm also invisible to other LGBT people and slightly more likely to be ridiculed if I come out as nonbinary. If I'm perceived as gender nonconforming, I'm hypervisible to cishets, I'm still likely to be ridiculed when I say I'm nonbinary ("you can't be a nonbinary woman"; "are you sure you're not just a masculine girl?"), and I'm vulnerable to derision even from other sapphic women, either because of my nonexistent "masculine privilege" or because I look "too gay" and their internalized sapphobia makes them self-conscious about proving their own femininity.
But I do still make some effort. I prefer blue or green or yellow t-shirts, loose on me (so they don't cling to my hips and chest). And denim or corduroy shorts, or those black shorts with the liners in them.

 The rest of the time, I prefer skinny jeans, men's T shirts, hats (especially beanies), ties, men's button-down shirts, hoodies (kinda have to), snapbacks, big sweaters, leather boots, and canvas tennis shoes. I wear a lot of black, gray, green, red, and dark blue, I prefer cotton in terms of fabrics and materials, and I really freaking love the men's section at Old Navy. So if you know me in real life and are ever wondering what to get me for a gift, gift cards to Old Navy always work. Or a binder. *cough*

 I do wear skirts and dresses occasionally, though lately I've felt extremely uncomfortable in them. I also wear jewelry (mostly androgynous stuff - simple silver rings, my necklace with the bow-and-arrow charm symbolizing Artemis, hemp or leather bracelets, etc) and I'm a fan of infinity scarves. That preference probably has something to do with the fact that they cover my chest, or at least obscure my and other people's view of it, and can help combat dysphoria. Also, I like to think they make me look kind of pretty boy-ish. I'm probably wrong about that, but let me have nice things.

 4. Talk about your choices with body hair. How do you style your hair? Do you have facial hair? What do you choose to shave, or choose not to shave?

 My hair is short, usually in a pixie cut because I'm not sure how to ask the stylist about haircuts for men's haircuts and get away with it, and pixies are androgynous enough to make me not cringe and hate myself every time I look in the mirror. It gives me dysphoria if it's long enough to reach my neck - I start tugging on it and sporadically whimpering. Not a pretty sight.

 I'm white, but apparently I have really thick, fast-growing hair for a white person. Stylists always seem surprised by that. It's kind of dark blond (though I dyed it red at one point) and not straight but not really curly either - I've heard it called wavy. I'm vain about my hair, so it's really soft and shiny. Next time I get my hair cut, I kind of want it to look like Ginnifer Goodwin's. Or maybe Phil Lester's, but again, I'm not sure how I'd handle that.
I've never been on HRT and am not transfeminine, but I do have facial hair. There's some wisps of it along my jaw, especially near my ears. I also have a light mustache and sideburns. My facial hair is hard to see though because it's so light and I'm pale as fuck, but I've gotten comments on it. I have no plans to shave this hair, and I wouldn't even if I were a cis woman. I do pluck stray hairs from my jawline occasionally, because they can be annoying.
Beyond that, I shave my armpits because it makes me feel clean and reduces BO, but rarely on my legs or anything. I'm bad at shaving, and being autistic makes me really klutzy so it's hard to do the acrobatics needed to get all my leg hair off. 
Seriously, I've tried many times, I've always failed, and usually I end up forgetting my thighs or calves or leaving some really obvious hair near my ankles. I hate shaving near my ankles, especially, because they're so bony and I've cut myself shaving down there, which hurts like hell. But I will if I have a job interview or something coming up, since I have to look professional and professional means looking cishet, and for me specifically that means looking like a cishet woman.

 5. Talk about cosmetics. Do you choose to wear makeup? Do you paint your nails? What types of soaps and perfumes do you use if any?

I do sometimes wear makeup, mostly on special occasions. Even beyond that, though, I'll wear blush, eye shadow, foundation, or mascara like once a year. I want to use it to figure out how to contour my face to look more masculine, and there's apparently YouTube tutorials on that so I'll have to check them out.
I rarely paint my nails - haven't in...what's it been now, a year? More?
And I prefer unscented or almond scented soaps (I have a bar of this and sometimes I just hold it up to my face and sniff, just because). I also love the smell of coconut oil - it's my favorite scent, actually.
@08:28 6. Have you experienced being misgendered? If so, how often?
Constantly, because I'm only out to a handful of people and most of them don't take it seriously. I do have friends who are supportive of my gender, but they do still (at my request) misgender me around people I'm not out to, for my own protection.
That said: if we are not around someone I'm not out to, or if you're not sure, ask first and go with what I tell you.

 7. Do you experience dysphoria? How does that affect you?
I already talked about my hair dysphoria and my pronoun dysphoria. I also have dysphoria over being called feminine nicknames, my chest and hips, my period (not really the bleeding - just the way it seems to make my hormones go into overdrive and, of course, it makes my chest bigger), and just my curves in general.

And it's so weird because like...I know that a lot of people find me physically attractive. I've gotten my fair share of flirting, usually unwanted. I find similar physical traits attractive on other people. I'm in the body positivity movement, so I know my body isn't bad. It's just...too feminine, it looks like "strictly female", it feels like something I'm living in and taking care of and struggling to love but it doesn't really feel like mine.

Dysphoria doesn't happen all the time, but at best it's uncomfortable - discomfort when my arm brushes against my chest, an internal sense of dread when my hand brushes over the curve of my hip when I'm showering or changing. I hate being naked because of that. At worst, it makes me feel like there's no hope, like I'm chained to this social perception of me as female and there's no way to escape.

8. Talk about children. Are you interested in having children? Would you want to carry a child if that were an option for you? Do you want to be the primary caretaker for any children you may have?

I'm slightly interested in having children, but pregnancy sounds like a goddamn nightmare so if I ever have a kid, the kid is going to be adopted. And if I ever get pregnant, I'm having an abortion. Multiple people I'm close to have gotten pregnant and liked it, and I'm happy for them, but they don't have dysphoria to worry about. I honestly feel that I would try to hurt myself if I were forced through a pregnancy.

Besides, there are so many kids already waiting to be adopted - why would I bring a baby into the world when I could just give one of them a loving home?

Also, I believe that it's wrong to have a kid unless you're absolutely sure you want one, and I'm not at that point, not to mention that I'm barely past being a kid myself, so for the foreseeable future I'm staying childless.

9. Talk about money. Is it important to you to provide for a family financially if you choose to have one? Is it important to you that you earn more than any partner you may have? Do you prefer to pay for things like  dates? Are you uncomfortable when others pay for you or offer to pay for you?

I don't particularly care if I make more money than my partner or not, and I've never dated so I don't know if it would make me uncomfortable if someone paid for me on a date. But I think that, if I were going to date, I'd rather we just paid for our own meals, took turns paying, or split the bill according to what each of us could afford.

As for providing for a family, I grew up, like, filthy rich compared to most of the world: I went to one of the best public high schools in America, I live in a two-story condo with a dog and an indoor pool, my parents have four cars (granted, we got one of them really cheaply because it used to belong to my uncle), I have a tablet and cell phone, my family owns a cottage on about an acre of land that we use as a vacation home (granted, we got that really cheaply too because we bought it at a state tax auction and it had a lot of mold and ugly wallpaper back then, so only one other person wanted it), I have nice clothes, I have health care, I went to summer camp and had vacations as a kid, and I never go hungry.
I say this to make it clear: I know how fortunate and privileged I am. I'm not trying to brag, just make it clear what kind of economic situation I'm used to. Even so, I don't feel like I'd need all that to be happy. I wouldn't need a pool, or four cars, or a cottage, or vacations and summer camp. Those are nice conveniences and I know how many people would love to have my life, but I'd be fine with just one house with enough room in it for everyone living there to not be on top of each other, plus decent clothing, a binder, food, and health care. And maybe a cat. I'd love a cat.
I'm majoring in social work next fall, and that's not a field that pays a lot of money but it is something really important to me and something I'm really passionate about. Plus, like I said, I'm probably not going to have kids.
My plan is to work for a social services agency and live with a few friends, maybe three or four, in a house together. Maybe get married for tax benefits. Everyone involved, including me obviously, can pool their money and use it for the good of this whole group of people.

 10. Anything else you want to share about your experience with gender?

No, not that I can think of. But I'm tired so I might add something later.