Can Abnormaldiversity Just Not?

CW: q slur, biphobia, lesbophobia, mogai bullshit, the split attraction model, fetishization of trans people, misgendering

So Abnormaldiversity has decided to fuck up again, at which point I made a comment calling out everything wrong with her post. And it was too long to be just a single comment because there was so fucking much wrong, so it ended up five comments - well, six, actually, since I accidentally posted one of them twice. And now they're on here.

Radioactive8:49 AM

CW: q slur

1. as a cis non mga person, bi and pan people's attraction to nonbinary people is literally none of your business.

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   Radioactive8:50 AM

   2. Don't say h*m*sexual. you're not a gay man or lesbian, it's not yours to reclaim.
   3. there actually is a lot of furor over lesbian identified women dating trans men, and rightfully so because trans men are men and if you call yourself a lesbian while knowingly dating a trans man you're a transphobe and lesbophobe
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   Radioactive8:53 AM

   4. the Kinsey scale is outdated and homophobic.
   5. the split attraction model should only be used in the ace/aro communities (I.e. my own identity as a quoiromantic sapphic, or a friend of mine's as a bi gray-ace) and can lead to internalized homophobia and biphobia when used in ways like "biromantic h*m*sexual" because it leads to gay people (especially teenage lesbians, gay trans boys/men, and questioning people who are mentally ill and/or survivors) trying to force themselves to feel m/w attraction, and it sexualizes bi/pan identities because the word "biromantic" leads to assumptions that anyone who identifies as bisexual is talking specifically about their sexual attraction
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   Radioactive8:56 AM

   6. a "biromantic h*m*sexual" or "h*m*romantic bisexual" woman is just...a bisexual woman, and therefore not a lesbian. It doesn't matter whether her attraction to men is romantic, sexual, or both. It just matters that she DOES feel both attraction to men and women.
   If she only wants to be with women/doesn't ever want to be with men and man aligned people, despite feeling attraction to men, she can identify as a lesbian if she wants. But you can't be both bi and gay.
   7. there are lesbians who struggle with coercive heterosexuality or unwanted attraction to men, or who realized they were gay while dating a man and are now unable to leave that relationship, but you can't be genuinely attracted to and happily dating a man while identifying a lesbian because lesbian identity inherently rejects men.
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   Radioactive9:00 AM

   8. a cishet man who feels the need to have casual sex with cis women because he thinks being with a woman who has a penis is gay is a transmisogynist and is likely emotionally abusing his trans girlfriend.
   9. if your brother's (apparently cis) friend would date cis women, trans men, and afab nonbinary people, but not cis men, trans women, or amab nonbinary people, he's a transphobe and doesn't respect his trans partners' identities or see trans women as real women.
   10. As an afab nonbinary wlw, my sapphic identity has NOTHING to do with the fact that I have a vagina. It has to do with the fact that I identify with womanhood and this is true of all other nonbinary wlw and nonbinary mlm.
   You cannot identify as, say, a lesbian demiboy just because you're afab, because lesbians and wlw cannot be man aligned and this identity is not only lesbophobic and sapphobic, but also transphobic to trans wlw because it validates the (terfy) assumption that lesbianism is attraction to vaginas, afab nonbinary wlw because it implies that our sexualities are based only in our assigned sex and that we're actually cis women and that our nonbinary-ness doesn't need to be taken seriously, and trans men because it implies that they're actually women and that their attraction to women is gay and that their attraction to men is not.
   11. Trans men who identify as lesbians are wrong and are homophobic and transphobic for the same reasons. Trans men are men. Lesbians are women (or woman aligned nonbinary people).
   12. Don't call anyone FTM or MTF unless you know they're okay with it, especially if you're cis, because it implies that trans men and women weren't always men or women (respectively) and many trans people feel that this is not the case for them. It's also used by TERFs and chasers to misgender and fetishize trans people.
   13. as someone who would be considered an "afab demigirl", I do not "fit between cis and gender neutral". I'm not cis, I'm just a nonbinary person who isn't completely gender neutral.
   14. Also, by implying that all nonbinary sapphics are afab, you're erasing transfeminine nonbinary wlw and implying they're not really wlw.
   15. "It's important to remember that mga people have a better track record for accepting trans and nonbinary people than gays and lesbians do"
   first of all, many trans and nonbinary people have said not to group us with bi/pan people for the purpose of pitting us against gay men and lesbians because this erases the fact that cis mga people are just as transphobic as any other cis person, makes it seem like gay people are oppressive for being gay, pressures trans/nb people into prioritizing cis mga people, and erases and misgenders gay trans men, lesbian trans women, and gay nonbinary people.
   second, don't call gay people "gays" if you're not gay. It's dehumanizing.
   
   There is absolutely nothing good about this post and I have absolutely no idea why you wrote it, besides the fact that you have already proven yourself to be homophobic and transphobic.
   
   In any case, I figure you're going to delete this comment. After all, it was made by a nasty queer aphobe (though I'm arospec myself and nothing I've ever said has demonstrated a hatred or even dislike of ace people, just anger with cis non sga people who don't stay in their lane) who won't check their allosexual privilege. So before that happens, you should know that I'm going to copy and paste this comment and, if it's deleted, I'll turn it into a post on my own blog.