CW: wh*rephobia, sex work, rape, sexual assault, stalking, sl*t shaming, misogynistic slurs, homophobic slurs, transphobic slurs, discussion of transphobia, self harm, eating disorders, rather explicit discussions of sex and sexuality
Most of the worst insults you can hurl at a woman have to do with, to put it frankly, her vagina, her lack of it, or what she does with it.
A quick list of examples off the top of my head: wh*re, sl*t, d*ke, bimbo, c*ck tease, tr*nny, and more if you're feeling particularly creative. Even the word commonly known as the worst insult and vile word in the English has to do with her vagina: c*nt.
It's kinda strange how obsessed with how much people are obsessed with the body of complete strangers. I mean, not every women even has a vagina and that just makes the treatment worse.
And what is right in the ideal? Blond haired, big boobed, white, slender waist, perfectly shaped, girls? No 'waiting for marriage,' but also no sl*ts. Don't be a sl*t. Don't be a prude. Don't be too loud. Don't be too quiet, that's ugly. The opinionated d*kes, the witty trans girls, the clever girls of color, the disabled girls who want to have jobs and not children, well, we can't have that, can we?
And the ones who do use their body 'wrong?' The ones who don't just not fit the standards, but outright defy them? Who are the no-modesty sl*ts?
The girls with short choppy hair dyed some color too bright and tattoos crossing her body, cutting to escape her agony, is a no-modesty sl*ts, because she won't do femininity right. She won't be gentle. The girl with the tight shirt who gets drunk out of her mind with her best friends is a no-modesty sl*t. The girl who fucks a boy she just met a few hours ago for fun is a no-modesty sl*t.
Even the girl in the wheel chair who isn't content to be some inspiration porn and lives her life for her, not for able folks to be inspired by. The lesbian who wants to fuck her bisexual girlfriend instead of the boys who keep asking the two of them for a threesome, despite how contradictory that is, is a no-modesty wh*re.
The no-modesty sl*t are the girls who don't fit into the white, Christian, able, good girl, cishet, pretty, blond, skinny, and passive ideal. They might not even have sex 'promiscuously,' whatever that's supposed to mean. It means she's doing something right.
We are the no-modesty sl*ts, even if we are not sexual. We are the feminists. Being sexual or not sexual is not something that affects someone's feminism, but what does is having their sexuality not be preformed. Abstinence, if because some teacher was lecturing you about STIs or pregnancy and OH NO ALL THE SEX IS HAPPENING AND ABORTIONS ARE SCARY BOO HOO, is a performance. The same is being sexual because some cute guy is dictating how and when.
Of course, ace spectrum folks are not in any way obligated to be sexual. The very act of sex positivism is that sex is a morally neutral act. Those who dictate being sexual and those who prude shame celibate ace folks are not being sex positive. Any form of trying to control whether or not someone has sex is both coercion and also pretty damn rude, if I say so myself.
I am a no-modesty sl*t. I will defend my sisters and feminine nonbinary siblings, because we are the no-modesty sl*t. Shame one person for her or their sexual expression and be prepared, because sl*t shaming and prude shaming are not forgivable. I will protect my siblings till the end of time.
One last time for good measure. Repeat it with me: Sex is morally neutral.
EDIT: Apparently wh*re is only reclaimable by actual sex workers, so I have replaced it to sl*t.
Most of the worst insults you can hurl at a woman have to do with, to put it frankly, her vagina, her lack of it, or what she does with it.
A quick list of examples off the top of my head: wh*re, sl*t, d*ke, bimbo, c*ck tease, tr*nny, and more if you're feeling particularly creative. Even the word commonly known as the worst insult and vile word in the English has to do with her vagina: c*nt.
It's kinda strange how obsessed with how much people are obsessed with the body of complete strangers. I mean, not every women even has a vagina and that just makes the treatment worse.
And what is right in the ideal? Blond haired, big boobed, white, slender waist, perfectly shaped, girls? No 'waiting for marriage,' but also no sl*ts. Don't be a sl*t. Don't be a prude. Don't be too loud. Don't be too quiet, that's ugly. The opinionated d*kes, the witty trans girls, the clever girls of color, the disabled girls who want to have jobs and not children, well, we can't have that, can we?
And the ones who do use their body 'wrong?' The ones who don't just not fit the standards, but outright defy them? Who are the no-modesty sl*ts?
The girls with short choppy hair dyed some color too bright and tattoos crossing her body, cutting to escape her agony, is a no-modesty sl*ts, because she won't do femininity right. She won't be gentle. The girl with the tight shirt who gets drunk out of her mind with her best friends is a no-modesty sl*t. The girl who fucks a boy she just met a few hours ago for fun is a no-modesty sl*t.
Even the girl in the wheel chair who isn't content to be some inspiration porn and lives her life for her, not for able folks to be inspired by. The lesbian who wants to fuck her bisexual girlfriend instead of the boys who keep asking the two of them for a threesome, despite how contradictory that is, is a no-modesty wh*re.
The no-modesty sl*t are the girls who don't fit into the white, Christian, able, good girl, cishet, pretty, blond, skinny, and passive ideal. They might not even have sex 'promiscuously,' whatever that's supposed to mean. It means she's doing something right.
We are the no-modesty sl*ts, even if we are not sexual. We are the feminists. Being sexual or not sexual is not something that affects someone's feminism, but what does is having their sexuality not be preformed. Abstinence, if because some teacher was lecturing you about STIs or pregnancy and OH NO ALL THE SEX IS HAPPENING AND ABORTIONS ARE SCARY BOO HOO, is a performance. The same is being sexual because some cute guy is dictating how and when.
Of course, ace spectrum folks are not in any way obligated to be sexual. The very act of sex positivism is that sex is a morally neutral act. Those who dictate being sexual and those who prude shame celibate ace folks are not being sex positive. Any form of trying to control whether or not someone has sex is both coercion and also pretty damn rude, if I say so myself.
I am a no-modesty sl*t. I will defend my sisters and feminine nonbinary siblings, because we are the no-modesty sl*t. Shame one person for her or their sexual expression and be prepared, because sl*t shaming and prude shaming are not forgivable. I will protect my siblings till the end of time.
One last time for good measure. Repeat it with me: Sex is morally neutral.
EDIT: Apparently wh*re is only reclaimable by actual sex workers, so I have replaced it to sl*t.
While this is a good post, I've been told that the slur wh*re can only be reclaimed by sex workers. Since I'm not one, I obviously don't have the final say on that but you should probably still edit this post.
ReplyDeleteAlso, misogyny doesn't target all nonbinary people. It targets women and woman-aligned nonbinary people. It can be misdirected against non women, especially afab trans people.