I made a survey to figure out how the aro and ace communities feel about the separatist movement to separate aromanticism and asexuality from the LGBT community and form a community of our own. This community is ONLY for aro and ace people (spectrum included and regardless of sexual and/or romantic activity), so don't take it if you're neither aro nor ace. Trigger warning that the Q slur is used multiple times in questions, and the word "h*m*sexual" is also used at one point.
One of the questions made no sense to me (the one that asked both what you are and whether you think aro/ace are queer). I just couldn't parse that one at all.
ReplyDeleteI mean...I don't know what else to tell you? It's just what it sounds like. Anyway, I regret making this survey now because cishets and cis aroaces are responding to it saying they can opt into an oppressed community with limited resources and reclaim the slurs applied to said community. Besides that, I don't identify as aspec anymore and I still get a say. I'm gay and nonbinary, I'm LGBT and I don't feel safe with cis aroaces and cishets in safe spaces that say they're LGBT only; cishets are cishets no matter if they're ace, aro, or neither and I have every right to want to avoid them, but this "ALL aces and aros are inherently kweer!" bullshit has taken away the only place where I can do so.
DeleteWhat option do you pick if you're an ace/aro who thinks both of those are queer? And why didn't you just split it up into four different questions?
DeleteAnd I don't want bigots in the LGBT community, no matter what orientation they are. So there.
Deleteoh, nice. you don't think I, a nonbinary wlw, deserve to be in the LGBT community and access needed resources because I don't coddle cishet feels and reassure cis people who aren't attracted to their same gender that they're Valid when they reclaim homophobic slurs. I've never heard THAT before. /sarcasm
DeleteAnyway, no one's forcing you to read this blog (and I actually technically do identify as aspec, but the rampant homophobia and ableism in the ace and aro communities have made me incredibly reluctant to bring it up to anyone). if you're not okay with that then fuck off
so there uwu